Nobody said that breaking up doesn’t hurt. Divorce tends to be stressful and going through it alone only makes it more difficult. For those going through a divorce proceeding, it can get very traumatic.

The good news is that love after a divorce is still possible. There are many lessons to be learned that could be useful in future relationships. A recent article tackles five love lessons that help those who went through the pain of divorce bounce back, recover and start over.

According to experts, when one views each date and relationship as their teacher, important love lessons will be learned along the way. These lessons can help in developing a positive outlook as one journeys to find love again, even after a divorce.

The first lesson is to understand that not all relationships are meant to be forever and blaming one’s self for why the marriage fell apart isn’t advisable. Breakups happen for a reason, and often it takes both parties to ruin it. Having a sympathetic legal professional tackling the complexities of a divorce could prove invaluable in getting one’s mind out of the divorce legalities.

Each breakup or divorce exposes certain red flags and it’s important to identify each one sooner. This second lesson talks about knowing exactly what a potential lover should look for in their future relationships by setting standards and boundaries.

Third, a person’s self-esteem and confidence attracts the quality of their mates. Those that live in a mess will soon discover that it’s up to them to raise themselves up and get their lives together.

The fourth lesson talks about finding the source of happiness. A person who is happy and exudes certain positivity tends to pull people who are equally self-fulfilled to them. Happy people create happy relationships. This increases the chance the relationship will succeed.

Finally, the wounds of a divorce take time to heal. Learning to wait, knowing what worked and what didn’t, and making one’s self happy should be the priority before moving on to the next relationship.